> [!abstract] To effectively aid someone involves grasping their current state, not imposing your viewpoint, and being humble to truly comprehend their perspective and then aid >If one is truly to succeed in leading a person to a particular place, one must first take care to find him where he is and begin there. This is the secret of all the art of helping. > Anyone who cannot do this is himself in an illusion when he thinks he can help another. > >For truly, to be able to help another, I must be able to understand more than he does—yet, first and foremost, I must understand what he understands. When I do not do that, then my superior understanding does not help him at all. If I nonetheless insist on my superior understanding, it is because I am vain or proud, so that, in reality, rather than truly benefiting him, I wish to be admired by him. But all genuine help begins with humility. >- Søren Kierkegaard (SV, bind 18 side 92). ## Sources http://www.kjærgaardadvice.dk/hjaelpekunst